Category: Singles Spit Swap
ok so I posted a reply to a similar question but I really want to know why do us nice guys finish last? we try our best to be the perfect guy that fairy tale prince charming if you will but yet no matter how perfect we are to a girl it's never good enough. Why is that? why is it that girls always say that want a wonderful but when they get one they treat them badly?
First I’d like to ask you to define what being a nice guy means to you.
For most girls, a nice guy is a guy who is simply, nice. There is nothing special about him, nothing to draw any attraction to him, nothing that makes him stand out, and nothing that separates him from any other guy. This “nice” guy, will listen to what she has to say, will do what she wants him to do, will act how she wants him to act, will have no personality of his own, other then trying to please her every whim.
A nice guy is boring, mediocre, predictable, but over all, genuinely nice.
Why would a girl ever want a guy like that?
Women like good guys, they want bad boys, they want a real man, they want a catch, a cut above the rest, and they want a challenge; not drama, or problems, just a challenge to keep interested in.
I’m generalizing of course, but I’m sure you get the idea.
How does anyone expect to finish first, if they don’t stand out of the crowd?
If you want to finish first, stop being a nice guy, and start being a good guy.
Well said!
I agree.
A nice buy is someone who loves, cares, and willing to stand beside his partner through thick and thin.
Well, ok sure and I agree in this thread! well said.
Extremely well said, OK Sure. Yes, you were generalizing, but I personally think you were very accurate.
Yes, I think that was pretty accurate! I, as a girl, seem to enjoy the "challenge". Of course, I'm not looking for a guy who's going to treat me like crap, however, I do enjoy the challenge of working to be close to him, or maybe just simply someone who doesn't just "give it all to me" in one drop so to speek, because just as most guys enjoy a girl who is "hard to get", I feel the challenge is a good way to keep the interest, as the above poster said. Again, I'm not saying a guy should not be "nice", I'm just saying that there should always be a way for the guy to try to keep the girl's interest, or vice versa. Just as guys want interesting girls, girls would like the same.
well said alex and ashley
Girls don't want a pushover, they want a man that will kill for them, knows how to hunt, and is a big enough badass to protect her when the apocolips comes even if that means he's abusive. Or you can just look at this link for the details.
http://www.laddertheory.com/
He can be all those first things, without being abusive. I don't understand women who stay in abusive relationships, but that thread is already on the Let's Talk board. LOL.